It justs takes a second to build up another, one word, one sentence.

 Take the time to care about those you say you care about.

 YE have heard that it hath been said, 

Thou shalt love thy neighbor, and hate thine enemy. 

But I say unto you, Love your enemies, 

bless them that curse you,

 do good to them that hate you, 

and pray for them which spitefully use you and persecute you; 

that ye may be the children of your Father which is in heaven: 

for he maketh his sun to rise on the evil and on the good, 

and sendeth rain on the just and on the unjust.   Matthew verse 43

http://justus.anglican.org/resources/bcp/1789/Prayer&Thanksgiving_1789.htm

Well Just sayin: This is the way to be able to make someone else feel better when they are struggling.  Don't make it up, look closer as the signs for this will be evident.  Everyone in humanity does have special gifts.  Look for these in your friends and tell them what it is you see are their strenghths.  It is a form of love to acknowledge and to love is the only acknowledgment there is in the end.